NLPer Sue Knight has published the third edition of her book NLP at Work. So what is new about this edition?
Sue has been modelling Frank Farrelly, creator of Provocative Therapy, for several years. She now feels comfortable in presenting the way she and Frank work with Provocative Therapy and humour. She wants the book to help ensure Provocative Therapy gets the recognition it deserves.
Sue also believes David Grove (who sadly died suddenly in January 2008) deserves to be known the world over for his work with Clean Language and Metaphor.
Sue has introduced the work of Frank and David in the third edition of her book and, in particular, she seeks to demonstrate how their work can be incorporated into the way we all negotiate our way through the winding pathways of life.
Sue has also added a chapter about the impact of how we represent time and how we can use that representation to enrich our experience in the present.
Most importantly Sue wants to tell us how she now views the topics covered in the first two editions with the benefit of age, faith and experience. Sue says “I have appreciated applications and nuances that were limited by my immaturity when I wrote that first draft all those years ago.”
In her comments about the new edition Sue acknowledges the changes in the world and increased alarm for the future of the planet and reflects on the only certainties in the world - uncertainty and mortality. Sue believes NLP has given her a means to live with both. Sue says “If I were to prioritise the learning that I encourage in my students, it is the ability to embrace a state of unknowing, to live in the present and to open themselves with every pore of their body to feedback.”
Friday 9 October 2009
Monday 5 October 2009
NLP - Word Games (1)
Words
Have you ever noticed that there are certain words that always make you feel good? Maybe you can think of such a word right now. I wonder if you hear yourself saying that word more often on a day when things are going well for you. Or have you felt really good just because somebody else has used this word in a conversation?
There are all kinds of words that make me feel good. Some are just names of places, countries I've visited, landscapes I've seen where I've been transformed into an amazing state of happiness and wellbeing. Then there are words about actions, ways of doing something or just descriptive words that resonate. Some of my favourite words are "laughing", "exhileration", "freedom" and "bliss". I have a friend who really likes the word "guacamole".
A Game You Can Play with a Word
Well here's a game you can play, but only play this game if you want to feel good more often. You might want to follow the procedure very carfefully so you complete the whole game and get the really good feelings or you might like to explore the different ways you can play it to get the best results.
The rules of the basic game are very simple.
All you have to do is pick one word at the start of the day, the kind of word that always creates extremely good feelings in you. If you want to make sure you have chosen the right kind of word, just say the word to yourself a few times and notice what kind of feelings it creates. This isn't the same as affirmations, so I don't want you to pick a phrase or a sentence. Just pick one word.
Then, during the course of the day, see how many times you can deliberately, introduce the word into conversations. Use the chosen word at least ten times in the day to get the best kind of results.
And I wonder what you notice about how good you feel at the end of the day just by letting the sound of this word do its magic at a deep and unconscious level.
Ways to Win
One tip on getting the most out of this game is to remember "it's just a game". I have met some people who read a lot of great self help books. They practise exercises and techniques very seriously. Their brow furrows, they screw up their face in concentration, like they are constipated. I guess some people enjoy trying very hard to do things, to squeeze out a positive result. However I have a hunch the best way to practise any kind of self help technique is to adopt the right attidude, the kind of attitude you have when you're just playing. So things flow easily and automatically as you have fun.
Do you remember playing games as a child? I am reminded of being at school. I am there in my imagination right now, sitting in class listening to my favourite teacher. She always seems to invent great games to play. It is much more fun than doing lessons. Then, as time passes, I find I have learnt so much from these games and the learnings have just integrated into my life without any effort at all. And the more fun the game, the more I learn.
Some very inspiring people seem to take this playful attitude into adult life and achieve incredible results. I guess Einstein and Newton spent a lot of time playing.
You could decide to play this game every day. Some people might say why run before you can walk. Then again most of us were taught to walk a long time ago. So why just walk when you can run? The great thing about playing as an adult is nobody is going to tell you to stop running in the corridor are they.
Have fun.
Author - Andy Lucas, Spring to Mind NLP Brighton
Have you ever noticed that there are certain words that always make you feel good? Maybe you can think of such a word right now. I wonder if you hear yourself saying that word more often on a day when things are going well for you. Or have you felt really good just because somebody else has used this word in a conversation?
There are all kinds of words that make me feel good. Some are just names of places, countries I've visited, landscapes I've seen where I've been transformed into an amazing state of happiness and wellbeing. Then there are words about actions, ways of doing something or just descriptive words that resonate. Some of my favourite words are "laughing", "exhileration", "freedom" and "bliss". I have a friend who really likes the word "guacamole".
A Game You Can Play with a Word
Well here's a game you can play, but only play this game if you want to feel good more often. You might want to follow the procedure very carfefully so you complete the whole game and get the really good feelings or you might like to explore the different ways you can play it to get the best results.
The rules of the basic game are very simple.
All you have to do is pick one word at the start of the day, the kind of word that always creates extremely good feelings in you. If you want to make sure you have chosen the right kind of word, just say the word to yourself a few times and notice what kind of feelings it creates. This isn't the same as affirmations, so I don't want you to pick a phrase or a sentence. Just pick one word.
Then, during the course of the day, see how many times you can deliberately, introduce the word into conversations. Use the chosen word at least ten times in the day to get the best kind of results.
And I wonder what you notice about how good you feel at the end of the day just by letting the sound of this word do its magic at a deep and unconscious level.
Ways to Win
One tip on getting the most out of this game is to remember "it's just a game". I have met some people who read a lot of great self help books. They practise exercises and techniques very seriously. Their brow furrows, they screw up their face in concentration, like they are constipated. I guess some people enjoy trying very hard to do things, to squeeze out a positive result. However I have a hunch the best way to practise any kind of self help technique is to adopt the right attidude, the kind of attitude you have when you're just playing. So things flow easily and automatically as you have fun.
Do you remember playing games as a child? I am reminded of being at school. I am there in my imagination right now, sitting in class listening to my favourite teacher. She always seems to invent great games to play. It is much more fun than doing lessons. Then, as time passes, I find I have learnt so much from these games and the learnings have just integrated into my life without any effort at all. And the more fun the game, the more I learn.
Some very inspiring people seem to take this playful attitude into adult life and achieve incredible results. I guess Einstein and Newton spent a lot of time playing.
You could decide to play this game every day. Some people might say why run before you can walk. Then again most of us were taught to walk a long time ago. So why just walk when you can run? The great thing about playing as an adult is nobody is going to tell you to stop running in the corridor are they.
Have fun.
Author - Andy Lucas, Spring to Mind NLP Brighton
Thursday 1 October 2009
My New Office in Brighton and Hove
Just a quick announcement:
I have now secured new premises in Brighton and Hove. This is great news if you live in the Brighton area and would like NLP and hypnotherapy for stopping smoking, weight control, exam nerves, public speaking, confidence, tackling anxiety, managing stress, pain control or just for some coaching to make your life even better.
The address is:
Unit 21, 98 Goldstone Villas, Hove BN3 3RU
I have now secured new premises in Brighton and Hove. This is great news if you live in the Brighton area and would like NLP and hypnotherapy for stopping smoking, weight control, exam nerves, public speaking, confidence, tackling anxiety, managing stress, pain control or just for some coaching to make your life even better.
The address is:
Unit 21, 98 Goldstone Villas, Hove BN3 3RU
The therapy room, based in premises in Goldstone Villas, Hove is easily accessible by bus, train or car.
- Immediately outside Hove railway station.
- Regular number 7 buses stop outside the office.
- Parking available in the station car park.
If you arrive early for your appointment there is a very pleasant pub nextdoor called The Station, which serves food and hot drinks.
Clinic Hours
Monday to Friday -10am to 7pm subject to availability
Author: Andy Lucas, Spring to Mind Advanced NLP Therapeutic Specialist, Brighton & Hove
Saturday 27 June 2009
NLP Resources
I am often asked where you can find good resources on all things NLP. Well there are many sites out there with lots to offer. However my favourite place to find up-to-date information, stimulating discussions, brand new techniques and news of the best events and training is NLP Connections.
Meanwhile, in this blog, I continue to share many of the insights and techniques I have gathered over the years of studying, and as a result of practising as an Advanced NLP Therapeutic Specialist (licensed by the Society of NLP). In fact there a no more than 50 people with this most advanced certification in the whole of the UK. And one of the things I have discovered is, as my knowledge has become more advanced and deeper, the amazing power of language and the remarkable changes that can occur. Even by reading something creates a major shift in thinking better.
It can very curious reading articles by advanced NLP therapists, such as myself, because sometimes it seems like there is a grammatical error and yet it is this artfully vague and sometimes seemingly ambiguous use of language that can lead you to the most amazing realisations especially when you let the learnings reach deep into the unconscious triggering a kind of freedom from old patterns as a new pathway seems to open up before you creating all kinds of opportunities just because you allow yourself to think more flexibly now.
Meanwhile if you would like to learn how you can immediately adopt some very effective changes in the way you think to yourself now, you can visit my website for information on one to one coaching to help you use NLP to change your mind for the better or to quote Richard Bandler's book title "to use your brain for a change".
Andy Lucas - Advanced NLP Brighton
Meanwhile, in this blog, I continue to share many of the insights and techniques I have gathered over the years of studying, and as a result of practising as an Advanced NLP Therapeutic Specialist (licensed by the Society of NLP). In fact there a no more than 50 people with this most advanced certification in the whole of the UK. And one of the things I have discovered is, as my knowledge has become more advanced and deeper, the amazing power of language and the remarkable changes that can occur. Even by reading something creates a major shift in thinking better.
It can very curious reading articles by advanced NLP therapists, such as myself, because sometimes it seems like there is a grammatical error and yet it is this artfully vague and sometimes seemingly ambiguous use of language that can lead you to the most amazing realisations especially when you let the learnings reach deep into the unconscious triggering a kind of freedom from old patterns as a new pathway seems to open up before you creating all kinds of opportunities just because you allow yourself to think more flexibly now.
Meanwhile if you would like to learn how you can immediately adopt some very effective changes in the way you think to yourself now, you can visit my website for information on one to one coaching to help you use NLP to change your mind for the better or to quote Richard Bandler's book title "to use your brain for a change".
Andy Lucas - Advanced NLP Brighton
Wednesday 24 June 2009
NLP - Anchoring
I wonder what situations you would like to see yourself being more focused or feeling more relaxed and calm. Perhaps you like the sound of being a confident speaker or meeting new people with self assurance. And I guess there are many other situations where it would be great to be able to switch on a resourceful state of mind at will even before you've thought about it because it's just happened automatically. Maybe you have always wondered how you can quickly achieve and sustain these kind of improvements.
I enjoy using NLP to help my clients make instant and lasting progress in their ability to get into a good state. And one of the first things I do is teach you how to use "anchors".
I have often been asked to explain exactly what we mean in NLP when we talk about anchors. I guess the easiest way to understand it is to think about it literally. You know how an anchor keeps a ship in port. It is small yet very strong and solid and it can be found sitting very deep under the surface. A rope attaches the small anchor to the big ship holding it safely in position on the surface.
Now I don't like to explain everything, because I know your unconscious mind learns better when it works stuff out for itself. So I'd rather suggest you consider how the analogy of the anchor and the ship would help your ability to be in a useful state for some situation such as public speaking, sitting exams, socialising or something else.
And maybe you could be aware of how there really is nothing new about anchors at all. They exist anyway. So you can reflect on your ability to sometimes stay in a very useful state of mind already. You might remind yourself of such situations now as you ponder. Yet you might also find something exciting about the prospect of being able to use this natural ability more often by actually creating some of your own anchors and practising using them at chosen times.
So I could explain to you some very easy to learn techniques for developing anchors and yet I can't help thinking you can work this out for yourself and start teaching your unconscious mind to do the things it does well more often and in more situations now, wouldn't you.
Andy Lucas - NLP Coach Brighton
I enjoy using NLP to help my clients make instant and lasting progress in their ability to get into a good state. And one of the first things I do is teach you how to use "anchors".
I have often been asked to explain exactly what we mean in NLP when we talk about anchors. I guess the easiest way to understand it is to think about it literally. You know how an anchor keeps a ship in port. It is small yet very strong and solid and it can be found sitting very deep under the surface. A rope attaches the small anchor to the big ship holding it safely in position on the surface.
Now I don't like to explain everything, because I know your unconscious mind learns better when it works stuff out for itself. So I'd rather suggest you consider how the analogy of the anchor and the ship would help your ability to be in a useful state for some situation such as public speaking, sitting exams, socialising or something else.
And maybe you could be aware of how there really is nothing new about anchors at all. They exist anyway. So you can reflect on your ability to sometimes stay in a very useful state of mind already. You might remind yourself of such situations now as you ponder. Yet you might also find something exciting about the prospect of being able to use this natural ability more often by actually creating some of your own anchors and practising using them at chosen times.
So I could explain to you some very easy to learn techniques for developing anchors and yet I can't help thinking you can work this out for yourself and start teaching your unconscious mind to do the things it does well more often and in more situations now, wouldn't you.
Andy Lucas - NLP Coach Brighton
Tuesday 16 June 2009
NLP - Habit Change
I often receive enquiries about whether NLP and/or hypnotherapy can help with giving up an unwanted habit e.g. biting nails, thumb sucking, picking the face, smoking.
There's Giving Up
I don't know about you, but I have never liked "giving up" anything. It just sounds like sacrificing something good.
I guess this is a reminder of how NLP has you take care about the words you use, pay attention to what you hear yourself saying or just watch out for those sneaky phrases.
When you truly decide to stop doing something, you have already decided it no longer serves you, haven't you. So I don't suppose it's really a sacrifice at all, is it. Can you imagine our ancestors making sacrifices of something unwanted to the gods? So that phrase "giving up" seems a bit redundant, doesn't it.
And if you are still in two minds about whether you want to stop this habit or not, the phrase "giving up" is not going to make that decision any easier, is it. You can carry on using that mantra if you like - "giving up, giving up, giving up". It's a wonderful piece of self-hypnosis for having you continue the old habit. Or you can take control of the things you say to yourself and others to make the change you want to happen more easily now.
And There's Giving Up
There's another meaning to the phrase "giving up". Sometimes it means "quitting"...... Oops.
I must admit I have a bit of pride. I really don't like quitting things at all. It just sounds like something I might do if I didn't think I could succeed, like quitting an exam, quitting a challenge, quitting a competition.
It's all about language again, isn't it. After all, there are times in life when it is a good thing to "stop" something. It can be decisive, prudent, wise or even courageous, certainly not the action of a quitter. And there are times when it's best not to quit, when you need to be determined, persistent, motivated. It's funny how people who talk about "quitting smoking" seem to prefer "stopping quitting" and end up feeling like a quitter anyway. It's not their fault. Nobody ever told them about the power of language. I'm glad somebody told me.
I wonder
I wonder what you notice first about how much easier it is to change a habit when you finish quitting and start changing, or you cease giving up and start stopping instead. You might want to read that again or you might like to let it sink into your unconscious where it can begin to make a difference for the better now.
I think that's all I have to say about the subject right now. I could give up typing anything else in this particular posting, however I don't really like giving up, so I'll just stop instead.
Author: Andy Lucas, Advanced NLP Therapeutic Specialist
There's Giving Up
I don't know about you, but I have never liked "giving up" anything. It just sounds like sacrificing something good.
I guess this is a reminder of how NLP has you take care about the words you use, pay attention to what you hear yourself saying or just watch out for those sneaky phrases.
When you truly decide to stop doing something, you have already decided it no longer serves you, haven't you. So I don't suppose it's really a sacrifice at all, is it. Can you imagine our ancestors making sacrifices of something unwanted to the gods? So that phrase "giving up" seems a bit redundant, doesn't it.
And if you are still in two minds about whether you want to stop this habit or not, the phrase "giving up" is not going to make that decision any easier, is it. You can carry on using that mantra if you like - "giving up, giving up, giving up". It's a wonderful piece of self-hypnosis for having you continue the old habit. Or you can take control of the things you say to yourself and others to make the change you want to happen more easily now.
And There's Giving Up
There's another meaning to the phrase "giving up". Sometimes it means "quitting"...... Oops.
I must admit I have a bit of pride. I really don't like quitting things at all. It just sounds like something I might do if I didn't think I could succeed, like quitting an exam, quitting a challenge, quitting a competition.
It's all about language again, isn't it. After all, there are times in life when it is a good thing to "stop" something. It can be decisive, prudent, wise or even courageous, certainly not the action of a quitter. And there are times when it's best not to quit, when you need to be determined, persistent, motivated. It's funny how people who talk about "quitting smoking" seem to prefer "stopping quitting" and end up feeling like a quitter anyway. It's not their fault. Nobody ever told them about the power of language. I'm glad somebody told me.
I wonder
I wonder what you notice first about how much easier it is to change a habit when you finish quitting and start changing, or you cease giving up and start stopping instead. You might want to read that again or you might like to let it sink into your unconscious where it can begin to make a difference for the better now.
I think that's all I have to say about the subject right now. I could give up typing anything else in this particular posting, however I don't really like giving up, so I'll just stop instead.
Author: Andy Lucas, Advanced NLP Therapeutic Specialist
Tuesday 12 May 2009
NLP Practitioners Course - Sussex
If you are looking for an excellent NLP Practitioners course in the south of England, you may be interested in June O'Driscoll's course which is being held at the Holiday Inn, Gatwick, West Sussex from 18th to 25th May.
June O'Driscoll is a member of the Society of NLP and was trained by Richard Bandler (co-creator of NLP) and Paul McKenna. She regularly works with both of them. June has developed her own unique and engaging approach to training NLP practitioners and has inspired many of her students to integrate NLP into their lives in remarkable and rewarding ways.
I particularly like the way June covers so much NLP practitioner material in just seven days. She is a highly skilled trainer, adept at effective communication and at making learning fun. It seems the more you learn with her the more you have fun, and the more you have fun the more you learn.
June O'Driscoll is not only brilliant at teaching people who have never learnt NLP before she is also incredible at imparting new skills and levels of expertise to people who already have knowledge of the subject and to people who are already licenced NLP practitioners.
The delegate price for the whole course is £1,457. June is also offering the course at a special reduced rate to anybody who already has an NLP Practitioners certificate and would like to retrain as part of their continuous professional development. The special rate for the whole course is less than a £100 a day i.e. £677 for the whole week for anybody with an NLP Practitioners certificate.
June's co-trainer for the course is Geoff Rolls. He has a tremendous sense of humour and has an amazing knowledge of NLP language patterns, the Meta Model and the Milton Model.
I will also be their assisting June and Geoff.
Completion of the course will entitle you to join June's Yahoo Group and her NLP Practice Group, both of which are valuable sources of learning and continuous development.
If you would like to find out more about the course you can visit June's website: http://www.thoughtitude.co.uk.
What is NLP
NLP West Sussex
NLP Practitioners Course
NLP Gatwick
June O'Driscoll is a member of the Society of NLP and was trained by Richard Bandler (co-creator of NLP) and Paul McKenna. She regularly works with both of them. June has developed her own unique and engaging approach to training NLP practitioners and has inspired many of her students to integrate NLP into their lives in remarkable and rewarding ways.
I particularly like the way June covers so much NLP practitioner material in just seven days. She is a highly skilled trainer, adept at effective communication and at making learning fun. It seems the more you learn with her the more you have fun, and the more you have fun the more you learn.
June O'Driscoll is not only brilliant at teaching people who have never learnt NLP before she is also incredible at imparting new skills and levels of expertise to people who already have knowledge of the subject and to people who are already licenced NLP practitioners.
The delegate price for the whole course is £1,457. June is also offering the course at a special reduced rate to anybody who already has an NLP Practitioners certificate and would like to retrain as part of their continuous professional development. The special rate for the whole course is less than a £100 a day i.e. £677 for the whole week for anybody with an NLP Practitioners certificate.
June's co-trainer for the course is Geoff Rolls. He has a tremendous sense of humour and has an amazing knowledge of NLP language patterns, the Meta Model and the Milton Model.
I will also be their assisting June and Geoff.
Completion of the course will entitle you to join June's Yahoo Group and her NLP Practice Group, both of which are valuable sources of learning and continuous development.
If you would like to find out more about the course you can visit June's website: http://www.thoughtitude.co.uk.
What is NLP
NLP West Sussex
NLP Practitioners Course
NLP Gatwick
NLP - The Power of the Senses
Wow - Isn't it wonderful to be reminded of the instant state change we can experience just by being in a location that makes us feel good.
I have just spent the weekend in a beautiful camping site called Wowo in East Sussex. I have been there three times now, so I enjoy the instant good feelings I experience there because of all the positive anchors:
As I start packing my bags and getting my things together, lifting things into the back of the car, looking at the stuffed boot, tent, sleeping bag, various bits of equipment, I feel excited and I am already visualising the weekend ahead. I am already imagining being there and there is something curiously relaxing about this kind of excitement.
Then, during the journey to the site, there is a familiar sequence of signposts and landmarks which have become a sliding anchor with the state of excitement becoming increasingly strong as I get nearer to the campsite itself.
As the excitement builds, and as I enjoy focusing on the excitement more and more, I discover that any residual feelings of tension from the week drain away completely, effortlessly. It reminds me of pulling the plug out of the bath and letting it empty completely. There's a wonderful feeling of lightness.
When I reach the campsite my senses are overwhelmed by positive anchors. The sheer beauty of the lush green landscape feels me with joy to be alive. The greens are complemented by the pretty blooms of blues, purples, yellows and whites. And there is something about the freshness of the air as I gently breathe, something restful and yet invigorating. Meanwhile the birds take it in turns with each of their unique little choruses of welcome. It's as if their chorus of sound creates a sheet beneath me gradually lifting me to the level of the branches so I can be there in the sky with them.
So the location has created a perfect state of joy and relaxation. And, at the same time, as my friends arrive and greet me and as we help each other assemble the tents I automatically enjoy a warm feeling inside, a feeling of contentment which always arises in me when I take the time to enjoy the smiling faces of my friends and to hear in their voices everything I have come to appreciate about them and about our friendship.
Isn't it funny how it only takes a few moments to focus outside of ourselves, to see the beauty around us, and to notice the people there we care about, so those good feelings are allowed to emerge.
As I enjoy recalling the wonderful weekend I think to myself "Isn't it great, whatever your particular magical memories are, you can recall those good memories anytime you like, see what you saw, hear what you heard and feel what you felt and allow yourself to be there as long as you like to have some good feelings right now."
I have made a promise to myself to trigger these anchors using my imagination more often. Because I know any time I want to feel relaxed, to experience calmness or contentment, to have pleasant warm feelings inside all I have to do is remember to do this, to recall the magic of my special place. And I know the more I practise this the more it becomes a habit to make myself feel good quickly and instantly in any situation I choose.
Andy Lucas - Advanced Therapeutic Specialist
NLP West Sussex
Hypnotherapy near Worthing
I have just spent the weekend in a beautiful camping site called Wowo in East Sussex. I have been there three times now, so I enjoy the instant good feelings I experience there because of all the positive anchors:
As I start packing my bags and getting my things together, lifting things into the back of the car, looking at the stuffed boot, tent, sleeping bag, various bits of equipment, I feel excited and I am already visualising the weekend ahead. I am already imagining being there and there is something curiously relaxing about this kind of excitement.
Then, during the journey to the site, there is a familiar sequence of signposts and landmarks which have become a sliding anchor with the state of excitement becoming increasingly strong as I get nearer to the campsite itself.
As the excitement builds, and as I enjoy focusing on the excitement more and more, I discover that any residual feelings of tension from the week drain away completely, effortlessly. It reminds me of pulling the plug out of the bath and letting it empty completely. There's a wonderful feeling of lightness.
When I reach the campsite my senses are overwhelmed by positive anchors. The sheer beauty of the lush green landscape feels me with joy to be alive. The greens are complemented by the pretty blooms of blues, purples, yellows and whites. And there is something about the freshness of the air as I gently breathe, something restful and yet invigorating. Meanwhile the birds take it in turns with each of their unique little choruses of welcome. It's as if their chorus of sound creates a sheet beneath me gradually lifting me to the level of the branches so I can be there in the sky with them.
So the location has created a perfect state of joy and relaxation. And, at the same time, as my friends arrive and greet me and as we help each other assemble the tents I automatically enjoy a warm feeling inside, a feeling of contentment which always arises in me when I take the time to enjoy the smiling faces of my friends and to hear in their voices everything I have come to appreciate about them and about our friendship.
Isn't it funny how it only takes a few moments to focus outside of ourselves, to see the beauty around us, and to notice the people there we care about, so those good feelings are allowed to emerge.
As I enjoy recalling the wonderful weekend I think to myself "Isn't it great, whatever your particular magical memories are, you can recall those good memories anytime you like, see what you saw, hear what you heard and feel what you felt and allow yourself to be there as long as you like to have some good feelings right now."
I have made a promise to myself to trigger these anchors using my imagination more often. Because I know any time I want to feel relaxed, to experience calmness or contentment, to have pleasant warm feelings inside all I have to do is remember to do this, to recall the magic of my special place. And I know the more I practise this the more it becomes a habit to make myself feel good quickly and instantly in any situation I choose.
Andy Lucas - Advanced Therapeutic Specialist
NLP West Sussex
Hypnotherapy near Worthing
Friday 1 May 2009
Being Busy
I read a quote on Twitter today that went something like "success comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it". An initial reaction to these apparently wise words might be "Great, I don't have to try and be successful. I can just make myself busy and it will happen."
Ummmm..... Is it just me or is there a major flaw in this proposition?
It is very easy to be busy. It's easy to find things to do, especially in this age of technology, e-mails, web browsing, networking.... There is just so much we can do to keep ourselves busy. Yet, I can't help noticing, from my experience in all kinds of work situations, the busiest people are not necessarily the most productive. So I wonder what would happen if we were to make a habit of stepping back and just checking what exactly it is we are doing when we are "busy".
Using NLP skills to consciously observe and track our own patterns of behaviour I wonder what kind of short effective routines we could build into our day to make sure our activity is productive.
I have a hunch if you maintain more control over how and what you do when you are busy you might actually find yourself becoming more productive and less busy. And as you become less busy becoming even more successful.
I wonder what kind of changes in the quality of life arise when you allow yourself to have still time, time doing nothing. What if being busy was escaping from the greater challenge of being still with oneself? What if being still with oneself opened up a whole new level of consciousness beyond your imagination? What if all those things that the ancient sages said about meditation, stillness and self realisation turned out to be true just because you stopped being busy long enough to notice?
Hypnotherapy Shoreham
NLP Sussex
Ummmm..... Is it just me or is there a major flaw in this proposition?
It is very easy to be busy. It's easy to find things to do, especially in this age of technology, e-mails, web browsing, networking.... There is just so much we can do to keep ourselves busy. Yet, I can't help noticing, from my experience in all kinds of work situations, the busiest people are not necessarily the most productive. So I wonder what would happen if we were to make a habit of stepping back and just checking what exactly it is we are doing when we are "busy".
Using NLP skills to consciously observe and track our own patterns of behaviour I wonder what kind of short effective routines we could build into our day to make sure our activity is productive.
I have a hunch if you maintain more control over how and what you do when you are busy you might actually find yourself becoming more productive and less busy. And as you become less busy becoming even more successful.
I wonder what kind of changes in the quality of life arise when you allow yourself to have still time, time doing nothing. What if being busy was escaping from the greater challenge of being still with oneself? What if being still with oneself opened up a whole new level of consciousness beyond your imagination? What if all those things that the ancient sages said about meditation, stillness and self realisation turned out to be true just because you stopped being busy long enough to notice?
Hypnotherapy Shoreham
NLP Sussex
Thursday 30 April 2009
NLP - Secrets and Surprises
I've just found out about the new Secret Cinema in Brighton.
As soon as I found out about this I was reminded of the value of anticipation in a successful therapy session.
Have you ever noticed what happens when you find out that a surprise is awaiting you, a surprise birthday present, a secret guest at a party, a special treat, a holiday to a secret destination..... What if you remembered such a time now? What do you remember about the kinds of feelings you had when you enjoyed a sense of anticipation? What do you remember of the very first time you were anticipating such a surprise? Was it the anticipation or the excitement that gave you the most pleasure and made you feel so good?
I wonder if you have ever been on a really good training session where, right from the start, you knew something great was going to happen to your learning, even though you didn't yet know what it was going to be.
Or maybe you recall reading a book where the suspense just grew and grew. Perhaps you couldn't even put the book down, because your attention was so fixed in such an enjoyable way.
Then there are those films or TV programmes where the episode was so enthralling you couldn't wait for the next one. I must admit I've even trawled the internet looking for the early release of a sequel because of the sense of anticipation and curiosity I've been having.
And how much more highly tuned are your senses when you are experiencing that anticipation? So that you are able to enjoy every moment and learn even more than usual because of a natural feeling of being in the present, taking in every bit of information so your unconscious can use it in its own unique and resourceful way.
Even though I could suggest today what I think are the greatest benefits of regularly allowing yourself to enjoy moments of anticipation, curiosity and pleasant surprises, I know how much more learning you experience when you allow yourself to discover it for yourself like all the best kinds of learning.
Surprise yourself.
Shoreham NLP
Shoreham Hypnotherapy
Performance Coaching Shoreham
As soon as I found out about this I was reminded of the value of anticipation in a successful therapy session.
Have you ever noticed what happens when you find out that a surprise is awaiting you, a surprise birthday present, a secret guest at a party, a special treat, a holiday to a secret destination..... What if you remembered such a time now? What do you remember about the kinds of feelings you had when you enjoyed a sense of anticipation? What do you remember of the very first time you were anticipating such a surprise? Was it the anticipation or the excitement that gave you the most pleasure and made you feel so good?
I wonder if you have ever been on a really good training session where, right from the start, you knew something great was going to happen to your learning, even though you didn't yet know what it was going to be.
Or maybe you recall reading a book where the suspense just grew and grew. Perhaps you couldn't even put the book down, because your attention was so fixed in such an enjoyable way.
Then there are those films or TV programmes where the episode was so enthralling you couldn't wait for the next one. I must admit I've even trawled the internet looking for the early release of a sequel because of the sense of anticipation and curiosity I've been having.
And how much more highly tuned are your senses when you are experiencing that anticipation? So that you are able to enjoy every moment and learn even more than usual because of a natural feeling of being in the present, taking in every bit of information so your unconscious can use it in its own unique and resourceful way.
Even though I could suggest today what I think are the greatest benefits of regularly allowing yourself to enjoy moments of anticipation, curiosity and pleasant surprises, I know how much more learning you experience when you allow yourself to discover it for yourself like all the best kinds of learning.
Surprise yourself.
Shoreham NLP
Shoreham Hypnotherapy
Performance Coaching Shoreham
NLP - Phobias
If you have a phobia, or know somebody who has one, I wonder if you have ever noticed a reluctance to do something about it even though there is a desire to be totally free of it. And even though there is motivation for change behind that desire. I guess the reluctance occurs when somebody isn't experiencing that desire and motivation for change strongly enough or often enough yet.
Wouldn't it be great to experience the motivation so deeply and so frequently so you are ready to take the next step and have the change you've always wanted. And to be free. And to start feeling so good about the potential for things to be different now.
To help increase the momentum towards busting the phobia for good and bringing about permanent freedom from that old fear you can make some simple and effective preparations. Imagine your motivation for change is like a tiny flame. The following preparation helps the flame to burn more brightly, lighting the coals in the engine room of motivation driving the motors of change.
Consider your motivation for being free of the old phobia. What is important about having that freedom? Ask yourself: "what will be different in my life if I am free of it?" What benefits will you get from being free of that old habit of phobic feelings? What new opportunities will arise for you now? How is having this change beneficial to those around you? What will you be doing now that you couildn't have done before?
When you imagine sometime in the future now being free, having made the change, what kind of feelings and sensations do you experience? I wonder how things might look different in some curious way.
Before doing anything about how you feel differently in the situations where you used to have a phobia it's a good idea to start imagining what it is like having just completed the situation successfully e.g. having arrived at the airport after a relaxing flight, having completed the exam feeling calm and focused, having finished a very successful presentation, drying off after enjoying some time in the sea or a swimming pool, having a cup of tea after tidying up the shed full of cobwebs ...... I wonder what would happen if you spent a couple of minutes each day doing that, just imagining having completed that situation successfully.
After practising this kind of visit to the future you can allow yourself to discover, in your own unique way, how you know that you are experiencing the motivation for change more strongly. Then notice or feel what is different that means you are ready to take the next step and use some NLP and hypnosis to bust the old phobia completely.
Enjoy stoking up the coals of your motivation engine room.
If you have any comments or questions about this first step please feel free to post to this blog and I will be happy to give further suggestions.
I'll post another blog about some of the techniques used for the next step very soon.
Further Information:
Phobia Hypnotherapy Treatment
Hypnotherapy Shoreham
NLP Shoreham
EFT Shoreham
Wouldn't it be great to experience the motivation so deeply and so frequently so you are ready to take the next step and have the change you've always wanted. And to be free. And to start feeling so good about the potential for things to be different now.
To help increase the momentum towards busting the phobia for good and bringing about permanent freedom from that old fear you can make some simple and effective preparations. Imagine your motivation for change is like a tiny flame. The following preparation helps the flame to burn more brightly, lighting the coals in the engine room of motivation driving the motors of change.
Consider your motivation for being free of the old phobia. What is important about having that freedom? Ask yourself: "what will be different in my life if I am free of it?" What benefits will you get from being free of that old habit of phobic feelings? What new opportunities will arise for you now? How is having this change beneficial to those around you? What will you be doing now that you couildn't have done before?
When you imagine sometime in the future now being free, having made the change, what kind of feelings and sensations do you experience? I wonder how things might look different in some curious way.
Before doing anything about how you feel differently in the situations where you used to have a phobia it's a good idea to start imagining what it is like having just completed the situation successfully e.g. having arrived at the airport after a relaxing flight, having completed the exam feeling calm and focused, having finished a very successful presentation, drying off after enjoying some time in the sea or a swimming pool, having a cup of tea after tidying up the shed full of cobwebs ...... I wonder what would happen if you spent a couple of minutes each day doing that, just imagining having completed that situation successfully.
After practising this kind of visit to the future you can allow yourself to discover, in your own unique way, how you know that you are experiencing the motivation for change more strongly. Then notice or feel what is different that means you are ready to take the next step and use some NLP and hypnosis to bust the old phobia completely.
Enjoy stoking up the coals of your motivation engine room.
If you have any comments or questions about this first step please feel free to post to this blog and I will be happy to give further suggestions.
I'll post another blog about some of the techniques used for the next step very soon.
Further Information:
Phobia Hypnotherapy Treatment
Hypnotherapy Shoreham
NLP Shoreham
EFT Shoreham
Wednesday 29 April 2009
NLP - My Washing Up Music
Okay for those musos out there who want to know what exactly is my washing up music. One of my washing up CDs - I have many - is an album called Elephant Sound by Indian Ropeman.
Keep anchoring your good feelings.
Keep anchoring your good feelings.
NLP - Musical Anchors
In NLP we talk a lot about anchors, anchoring good feelings and states, maybe a confident state, a happy state, relaxation, calmness, focus, motivation.
Okay, now I'm going to talk about something that ought to be obvious and yet sometimes it's the obvious things we still need reminding to do from time to time in order to keep feeling good now.
We explore anchors not only when we first learn NLP, also as we become more and more accustomed to using what we've learnt daily making profound, positive and lasting changes to the way we think and feel powerfully. (Now would I do a thing like syntactic ambiguity ;))
So I was quickly reminded today of one of the easiest and lasting anchors - musical anchors. I am still astounded at how quickly and easily I can change state just because a certain piece of music is playing. I instantly chill when I listen to one of my yoga CDs. And when I have work or tasks to do I can immediately become energised by one of the CDs in my collection of dance tracks. I even get the washing up done at triple speed with musical speed.
Today I received a beautiful new CD from my friend Cherry. The CD is by Geoffrey Gurrumul Yunupingu , a very talented aboriginal musician from Australia. I was fascinated at how quickly and instantly the music put me into a relaxed AND motivated state - a great combination. Now I could analyse why this particular CD should make me feel so good. Was it the association with my good friend Cherry and the great times we spent together at her home on the mountains in Tasmania? Maybe the gentle soothing quality of Gurrumul's voice and guitar revivified feelings associated with other similar music? The truth is it doesn't matter why it makes me feel so good, because now I know whenever I want to feel relaxed and motivated I have a powerful anchor available for me at anytime.
Sometimes we can search everywhere for ways of feeling good, trying out different therapies, buying more stuff, moving home, getting a new job.... Yet sometimes the key to feeling good is just listening to a special piece music, something that, for whatever reason, always puts us into a pleasant state as soon as we listen to it. How cool is that!
Okay, now I'm going to talk about something that ought to be obvious and yet sometimes it's the obvious things we still need reminding to do from time to time in order to keep feeling good now.
We explore anchors not only when we first learn NLP, also as we become more and more accustomed to using what we've learnt daily making profound, positive and lasting changes to the way we think and feel powerfully. (Now would I do a thing like syntactic ambiguity ;))
So I was quickly reminded today of one of the easiest and lasting anchors - musical anchors. I am still astounded at how quickly and easily I can change state just because a certain piece of music is playing. I instantly chill when I listen to one of my yoga CDs. And when I have work or tasks to do I can immediately become energised by one of the CDs in my collection of dance tracks. I even get the washing up done at triple speed with musical speed.
Today I received a beautiful new CD from my friend Cherry. The CD is by Geoffrey Gurrumul Yunupingu , a very talented aboriginal musician from Australia. I was fascinated at how quickly and instantly the music put me into a relaxed AND motivated state - a great combination. Now I could analyse why this particular CD should make me feel so good. Was it the association with my good friend Cherry and the great times we spent together at her home on the mountains in Tasmania? Maybe the gentle soothing quality of Gurrumul's voice and guitar revivified feelings associated with other similar music? The truth is it doesn't matter why it makes me feel so good, because now I know whenever I want to feel relaxed and motivated I have a powerful anchor available for me at anytime.
Sometimes we can search everywhere for ways of feeling good, trying out different therapies, buying more stuff, moving home, getting a new job.... Yet sometimes the key to feeling good is just listening to a special piece music, something that, for whatever reason, always puts us into a pleasant state as soon as we listen to it. How cool is that!
NLP - Useful Questions
Here's a quick tip for therapists, coaches, friends, anybody.....
If you are helping somebody make some kind of change in their thinking, emotional patterns or behaviour you already know the importance of how you word a suggestion. I expect you also know how questions can sometimes be so much more powerful than a suggestion. I wonder how you first discovered that for yourself?
Okay, so you've worked out the power of asking questions so your client leads himself or herself to the solution. Sometimes you are helping a client with some kind of belief change. I guess it's sometimes useful to gently lead your client with some carefully worded questions. Yet care has to be taken too, so you do not seem pushy. You don't want your questioning to entrench the limiting belief do you?
I have often watched student therapists trying to put words into their clients' mouths thereby prompting responses such as "I can't", "I never seem to" or "I don't know".
What if there was one simple question that would increase your chances of helping your clients make that shift for themselves? What if this question would be so perfect the client would make the shift by using his or her own unique processes and patterns? What if this question would instantly and easily prompt the client to search for his or her own internal resources and make the change smoothly whilst narrating the change to you so you track what is occurring?
What if that question was "what if"?
Andy Lucas West Sussex Hypnotherapist- Advanced Therapy, NLP & Hypnotherapy
If you are helping somebody make some kind of change in their thinking, emotional patterns or behaviour you already know the importance of how you word a suggestion. I expect you also know how questions can sometimes be so much more powerful than a suggestion. I wonder how you first discovered that for yourself?
Okay, so you've worked out the power of asking questions so your client leads himself or herself to the solution. Sometimes you are helping a client with some kind of belief change. I guess it's sometimes useful to gently lead your client with some carefully worded questions. Yet care has to be taken too, so you do not seem pushy. You don't want your questioning to entrench the limiting belief do you?
I have often watched student therapists trying to put words into their clients' mouths thereby prompting responses such as "I can't", "I never seem to" or "I don't know".
What if there was one simple question that would increase your chances of helping your clients make that shift for themselves? What if this question would be so perfect the client would make the shift by using his or her own unique processes and patterns? What if this question would instantly and easily prompt the client to search for his or her own internal resources and make the change smoothly whilst narrating the change to you so you track what is occurring?
What if that question was "what if"?
Andy Lucas West Sussex Hypnotherapist- Advanced Therapy, NLP & Hypnotherapy
Tuesday 28 April 2009
NLP Shoreham, West Sussex
Good news!
Now people living in or near Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex have more opportunities to enjoy the great benefits of hypnotherapy and NLP.
I have recently relocated my main work space to 10, St Johns Court, John Street, Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex.
After the usual logistics involved in settling into new premises I am now enjoying running a successful NLP and hypnotherapy practice in this charming part of Sussex. In fact I am seeing clients from various parts of the area including Steyning, Portslade, Worthing and Poynings. And I am still enjoying seeing clients from Brighton, Hove and Lewes who are willing to travel because of recommendations by friends and colleagues.
I have also launched a new website providing lots of useful information about my Advanced Therapy in Shoreham including pages about NLP, EFT, hypnotherapy and self hypnosis.
The website is there for you, to answer your questions and help you make the changes your mind wants the best. When you've enjoyed checking it out let me know if you would like to see other useful stuff on the site or if there is anything you would like me to discuss on this blog. My Shoreham NLP enquires form and my Shoreham hypnotherapy enquiries form are easy to use.
There is also a handy NLP & Hypnotherapy Shoreham map on the site so you can find my new premises easily.
There will be more useful tips about NLP very soon.
Have fun.
Andy Lucas, Shoreham Hypnotherapist - Advanced Therapy Shoreham
Now people living in or near Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex have more opportunities to enjoy the great benefits of hypnotherapy and NLP.
I have recently relocated my main work space to 10, St Johns Court, John Street, Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex.
After the usual logistics involved in settling into new premises I am now enjoying running a successful NLP and hypnotherapy practice in this charming part of Sussex. In fact I am seeing clients from various parts of the area including Steyning, Portslade, Worthing and Poynings. And I am still enjoying seeing clients from Brighton, Hove and Lewes who are willing to travel because of recommendations by friends and colleagues.
I have also launched a new website providing lots of useful information about my Advanced Therapy in Shoreham including pages about NLP, EFT, hypnotherapy and self hypnosis.
The website is there for you, to answer your questions and help you make the changes your mind wants the best. When you've enjoyed checking it out let me know if you would like to see other useful stuff on the site or if there is anything you would like me to discuss on this blog. My Shoreham NLP enquires form and my Shoreham hypnotherapy enquiries form are easy to use.
There is also a handy NLP & Hypnotherapy Shoreham map on the site so you can find my new premises easily.
There will be more useful tips about NLP very soon.
Have fun.
Andy Lucas, Shoreham Hypnotherapist - Advanced Therapy Shoreham
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