I've just found out about the new Secret Cinema in Brighton.
As soon as I found out about this I was reminded of the value of anticipation in a successful therapy session.
Have you ever noticed what happens when you find out that a surprise is awaiting you, a surprise birthday present, a secret guest at a party, a special treat, a holiday to a secret destination..... What if you remembered such a time now? What do you remember about the kinds of feelings you had when you enjoyed a sense of anticipation? What do you remember of the very first time you were anticipating such a surprise? Was it the anticipation or the excitement that gave you the most pleasure and made you feel so good?
I wonder if you have ever been on a really good training session where, right from the start, you knew something great was going to happen to your learning, even though you didn't yet know what it was going to be.
Or maybe you recall reading a book where the suspense just grew and grew. Perhaps you couldn't even put the book down, because your attention was so fixed in such an enjoyable way.
Then there are those films or TV programmes where the episode was so enthralling you couldn't wait for the next one. I must admit I've even trawled the internet looking for the early release of a sequel because of the sense of anticipation and curiosity I've been having.
And how much more highly tuned are your senses when you are experiencing that anticipation? So that you are able to enjoy every moment and learn even more than usual because of a natural feeling of being in the present, taking in every bit of information so your unconscious can use it in its own unique and resourceful way.
Even though I could suggest today what I think are the greatest benefits of regularly allowing yourself to enjoy moments of anticipation, curiosity and pleasant surprises, I know how much more learning you experience when you allow yourself to discover it for yourself like all the best kinds of learning.
Surprise yourself.
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Shoreham Hypnotherapy
Performance Coaching Shoreham
Thursday 30 April 2009
NLP - Phobias
If you have a phobia, or know somebody who has one, I wonder if you have ever noticed a reluctance to do something about it even though there is a desire to be totally free of it. And even though there is motivation for change behind that desire. I guess the reluctance occurs when somebody isn't experiencing that desire and motivation for change strongly enough or often enough yet.
Wouldn't it be great to experience the motivation so deeply and so frequently so you are ready to take the next step and have the change you've always wanted. And to be free. And to start feeling so good about the potential for things to be different now.
To help increase the momentum towards busting the phobia for good and bringing about permanent freedom from that old fear you can make some simple and effective preparations. Imagine your motivation for change is like a tiny flame. The following preparation helps the flame to burn more brightly, lighting the coals in the engine room of motivation driving the motors of change.
Consider your motivation for being free of the old phobia. What is important about having that freedom? Ask yourself: "what will be different in my life if I am free of it?" What benefits will you get from being free of that old habit of phobic feelings? What new opportunities will arise for you now? How is having this change beneficial to those around you? What will you be doing now that you couildn't have done before?
When you imagine sometime in the future now being free, having made the change, what kind of feelings and sensations do you experience? I wonder how things might look different in some curious way.
Before doing anything about how you feel differently in the situations where you used to have a phobia it's a good idea to start imagining what it is like having just completed the situation successfully e.g. having arrived at the airport after a relaxing flight, having completed the exam feeling calm and focused, having finished a very successful presentation, drying off after enjoying some time in the sea or a swimming pool, having a cup of tea after tidying up the shed full of cobwebs ...... I wonder what would happen if you spent a couple of minutes each day doing that, just imagining having completed that situation successfully.
After practising this kind of visit to the future you can allow yourself to discover, in your own unique way, how you know that you are experiencing the motivation for change more strongly. Then notice or feel what is different that means you are ready to take the next step and use some NLP and hypnosis to bust the old phobia completely.
Enjoy stoking up the coals of your motivation engine room.
If you have any comments or questions about this first step please feel free to post to this blog and I will be happy to give further suggestions.
I'll post another blog about some of the techniques used for the next step very soon.
Further Information:
Phobia Hypnotherapy Treatment
Hypnotherapy Shoreham
NLP Shoreham
EFT Shoreham
Wouldn't it be great to experience the motivation so deeply and so frequently so you are ready to take the next step and have the change you've always wanted. And to be free. And to start feeling so good about the potential for things to be different now.
To help increase the momentum towards busting the phobia for good and bringing about permanent freedom from that old fear you can make some simple and effective preparations. Imagine your motivation for change is like a tiny flame. The following preparation helps the flame to burn more brightly, lighting the coals in the engine room of motivation driving the motors of change.
Consider your motivation for being free of the old phobia. What is important about having that freedom? Ask yourself: "what will be different in my life if I am free of it?" What benefits will you get from being free of that old habit of phobic feelings? What new opportunities will arise for you now? How is having this change beneficial to those around you? What will you be doing now that you couildn't have done before?
When you imagine sometime in the future now being free, having made the change, what kind of feelings and sensations do you experience? I wonder how things might look different in some curious way.
Before doing anything about how you feel differently in the situations where you used to have a phobia it's a good idea to start imagining what it is like having just completed the situation successfully e.g. having arrived at the airport after a relaxing flight, having completed the exam feeling calm and focused, having finished a very successful presentation, drying off after enjoying some time in the sea or a swimming pool, having a cup of tea after tidying up the shed full of cobwebs ...... I wonder what would happen if you spent a couple of minutes each day doing that, just imagining having completed that situation successfully.
After practising this kind of visit to the future you can allow yourself to discover, in your own unique way, how you know that you are experiencing the motivation for change more strongly. Then notice or feel what is different that means you are ready to take the next step and use some NLP and hypnosis to bust the old phobia completely.
Enjoy stoking up the coals of your motivation engine room.
If you have any comments or questions about this first step please feel free to post to this blog and I will be happy to give further suggestions.
I'll post another blog about some of the techniques used for the next step very soon.
Further Information:
Phobia Hypnotherapy Treatment
Hypnotherapy Shoreham
NLP Shoreham
EFT Shoreham
Wednesday 29 April 2009
NLP - My Washing Up Music
Okay for those musos out there who want to know what exactly is my washing up music. One of my washing up CDs - I have many - is an album called Elephant Sound by Indian Ropeman.
Keep anchoring your good feelings.
Keep anchoring your good feelings.
NLP - Musical Anchors
In NLP we talk a lot about anchors, anchoring good feelings and states, maybe a confident state, a happy state, relaxation, calmness, focus, motivation.
Okay, now I'm going to talk about something that ought to be obvious and yet sometimes it's the obvious things we still need reminding to do from time to time in order to keep feeling good now.
We explore anchors not only when we first learn NLP, also as we become more and more accustomed to using what we've learnt daily making profound, positive and lasting changes to the way we think and feel powerfully. (Now would I do a thing like syntactic ambiguity ;))
So I was quickly reminded today of one of the easiest and lasting anchors - musical anchors. I am still astounded at how quickly and easily I can change state just because a certain piece of music is playing. I instantly chill when I listen to one of my yoga CDs. And when I have work or tasks to do I can immediately become energised by one of the CDs in my collection of dance tracks. I even get the washing up done at triple speed with musical speed.
Today I received a beautiful new CD from my friend Cherry. The CD is by Geoffrey Gurrumul Yunupingu , a very talented aboriginal musician from Australia. I was fascinated at how quickly and instantly the music put me into a relaxed AND motivated state - a great combination. Now I could analyse why this particular CD should make me feel so good. Was it the association with my good friend Cherry and the great times we spent together at her home on the mountains in Tasmania? Maybe the gentle soothing quality of Gurrumul's voice and guitar revivified feelings associated with other similar music? The truth is it doesn't matter why it makes me feel so good, because now I know whenever I want to feel relaxed and motivated I have a powerful anchor available for me at anytime.
Sometimes we can search everywhere for ways of feeling good, trying out different therapies, buying more stuff, moving home, getting a new job.... Yet sometimes the key to feeling good is just listening to a special piece music, something that, for whatever reason, always puts us into a pleasant state as soon as we listen to it. How cool is that!
Okay, now I'm going to talk about something that ought to be obvious and yet sometimes it's the obvious things we still need reminding to do from time to time in order to keep feeling good now.
We explore anchors not only when we first learn NLP, also as we become more and more accustomed to using what we've learnt daily making profound, positive and lasting changes to the way we think and feel powerfully. (Now would I do a thing like syntactic ambiguity ;))
So I was quickly reminded today of one of the easiest and lasting anchors - musical anchors. I am still astounded at how quickly and easily I can change state just because a certain piece of music is playing. I instantly chill when I listen to one of my yoga CDs. And when I have work or tasks to do I can immediately become energised by one of the CDs in my collection of dance tracks. I even get the washing up done at triple speed with musical speed.
Today I received a beautiful new CD from my friend Cherry. The CD is by Geoffrey Gurrumul Yunupingu , a very talented aboriginal musician from Australia. I was fascinated at how quickly and instantly the music put me into a relaxed AND motivated state - a great combination. Now I could analyse why this particular CD should make me feel so good. Was it the association with my good friend Cherry and the great times we spent together at her home on the mountains in Tasmania? Maybe the gentle soothing quality of Gurrumul's voice and guitar revivified feelings associated with other similar music? The truth is it doesn't matter why it makes me feel so good, because now I know whenever I want to feel relaxed and motivated I have a powerful anchor available for me at anytime.
Sometimes we can search everywhere for ways of feeling good, trying out different therapies, buying more stuff, moving home, getting a new job.... Yet sometimes the key to feeling good is just listening to a special piece music, something that, for whatever reason, always puts us into a pleasant state as soon as we listen to it. How cool is that!
NLP - Useful Questions
Here's a quick tip for therapists, coaches, friends, anybody.....
If you are helping somebody make some kind of change in their thinking, emotional patterns or behaviour you already know the importance of how you word a suggestion. I expect you also know how questions can sometimes be so much more powerful than a suggestion. I wonder how you first discovered that for yourself?
Okay, so you've worked out the power of asking questions so your client leads himself or herself to the solution. Sometimes you are helping a client with some kind of belief change. I guess it's sometimes useful to gently lead your client with some carefully worded questions. Yet care has to be taken too, so you do not seem pushy. You don't want your questioning to entrench the limiting belief do you?
I have often watched student therapists trying to put words into their clients' mouths thereby prompting responses such as "I can't", "I never seem to" or "I don't know".
What if there was one simple question that would increase your chances of helping your clients make that shift for themselves? What if this question would be so perfect the client would make the shift by using his or her own unique processes and patterns? What if this question would instantly and easily prompt the client to search for his or her own internal resources and make the change smoothly whilst narrating the change to you so you track what is occurring?
What if that question was "what if"?
Andy Lucas West Sussex Hypnotherapist- Advanced Therapy, NLP & Hypnotherapy
If you are helping somebody make some kind of change in their thinking, emotional patterns or behaviour you already know the importance of how you word a suggestion. I expect you also know how questions can sometimes be so much more powerful than a suggestion. I wonder how you first discovered that for yourself?
Okay, so you've worked out the power of asking questions so your client leads himself or herself to the solution. Sometimes you are helping a client with some kind of belief change. I guess it's sometimes useful to gently lead your client with some carefully worded questions. Yet care has to be taken too, so you do not seem pushy. You don't want your questioning to entrench the limiting belief do you?
I have often watched student therapists trying to put words into their clients' mouths thereby prompting responses such as "I can't", "I never seem to" or "I don't know".
What if there was one simple question that would increase your chances of helping your clients make that shift for themselves? What if this question would be so perfect the client would make the shift by using his or her own unique processes and patterns? What if this question would instantly and easily prompt the client to search for his or her own internal resources and make the change smoothly whilst narrating the change to you so you track what is occurring?
What if that question was "what if"?
Andy Lucas West Sussex Hypnotherapist- Advanced Therapy, NLP & Hypnotherapy
Tuesday 28 April 2009
NLP Shoreham, West Sussex
Good news!
Now people living in or near Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex have more opportunities to enjoy the great benefits of hypnotherapy and NLP.
I have recently relocated my main work space to 10, St Johns Court, John Street, Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex.
After the usual logistics involved in settling into new premises I am now enjoying running a successful NLP and hypnotherapy practice in this charming part of Sussex. In fact I am seeing clients from various parts of the area including Steyning, Portslade, Worthing and Poynings. And I am still enjoying seeing clients from Brighton, Hove and Lewes who are willing to travel because of recommendations by friends and colleagues.
I have also launched a new website providing lots of useful information about my Advanced Therapy in Shoreham including pages about NLP, EFT, hypnotherapy and self hypnosis.
The website is there for you, to answer your questions and help you make the changes your mind wants the best. When you've enjoyed checking it out let me know if you would like to see other useful stuff on the site or if there is anything you would like me to discuss on this blog. My Shoreham NLP enquires form and my Shoreham hypnotherapy enquiries form are easy to use.
There is also a handy NLP & Hypnotherapy Shoreham map on the site so you can find my new premises easily.
There will be more useful tips about NLP very soon.
Have fun.
Andy Lucas, Shoreham Hypnotherapist - Advanced Therapy Shoreham
Now people living in or near Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex have more opportunities to enjoy the great benefits of hypnotherapy and NLP.
I have recently relocated my main work space to 10, St Johns Court, John Street, Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex.
After the usual logistics involved in settling into new premises I am now enjoying running a successful NLP and hypnotherapy practice in this charming part of Sussex. In fact I am seeing clients from various parts of the area including Steyning, Portslade, Worthing and Poynings. And I am still enjoying seeing clients from Brighton, Hove and Lewes who are willing to travel because of recommendations by friends and colleagues.
I have also launched a new website providing lots of useful information about my Advanced Therapy in Shoreham including pages about NLP, EFT, hypnotherapy and self hypnosis.
The website is there for you, to answer your questions and help you make the changes your mind wants the best. When you've enjoyed checking it out let me know if you would like to see other useful stuff on the site or if there is anything you would like me to discuss on this blog. My Shoreham NLP enquires form and my Shoreham hypnotherapy enquiries form are easy to use.
There is also a handy NLP & Hypnotherapy Shoreham map on the site so you can find my new premises easily.
There will be more useful tips about NLP very soon.
Have fun.
Andy Lucas, Shoreham Hypnotherapist - Advanced Therapy Shoreham
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